Secret Santa Gift Exchange Formats

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone gets one gift; givers’ names are revealed only if the group agrees.

Participants

Name draw limit: 3–1,000 entries

What to Prepare

A participant list, budget, deadline, and wish lists.

How it works

1. Agree on the rules and make sure everyone is on board.
2. Assign one recipient to each person and share assignments privately.
3. Prepare and give the labeled gifts.

Example

Anna gives to Michael, Michael to Mia, and Mia to Anna.

If Something Comes Up

If someone drops out before gifts are purchased, agree on a new draw. If gifts have already been bought, the organizer should find a replacement case by case.

In an account-based exchange, participants add wish lists and the organizer tracks gift status. If you only need a name draw without sign-up, try quick draw for up to 9 people personal result links or a list-based draw where the organizer gets all assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives as many gifts as they prepared.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A participant list and the same number of gifts for everyone. Each person must have fewer recipients than there are people in the group.

How it works

1. Shuffle the list on paper.
2. Each person gives gifts to the next agreed number of people in the shuffled circle, skipping their own name.
3. The organizer checks that everyone gives and receives the agreed number of gifts, then shares each assignment privately.

Example

In a group of five, each person gives to the next two people in the shuffled circle and receives two gifts.

If Something Comes Up

Don’t run separate standard draws; they may assign the same recipient more than once. The organizer must check the full distribution.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Both people in each pair exchange a gift.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

An even number of participants, a budget, and agreement that pairs will be revealed.

How it works

1. Shuffle the names on paper.
2. Pair up neighboring names.
3. Tell each person their pair and exchange gifts.

Example

Anna and Michael exchange gifts, as do Mia and Ava.

If Something Comes Up

With an odd number of participants, invite one more person or agree on a three-person gift rotation. A standard name draw won’t create required pairs.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Each household receives one shared gift.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

At least three families, one entry per family, and a shared budget.

How it works

1. Enter each family as one line in the name draw.
2. Check who’s in the recipient household and what they enjoy together.
3. Prepare one shared gift from your household.

Example

The Johnson family gives a board game to the Smith family.

If Something Comes Up

Don’t enter spouses on separate lines if you’ve agreed on one gift per family.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Each team gives and receives one gift.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

At least three teams, a point person for each, and a budget per team.

How it works

1. Enter one team name per line.
2. Draw names and appoint someone to collect ideas for each team.
3. Each team prepares one shared gift for its assigned team.

Example

The design team gives the support team a set for a group tea break.

If Something Comes Up

Team sizes may vary. Agree on a total budget per team rather than an unpredictable per-person contribution.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

The receiving organization confirms delivery; the giver doesn’t receive a gift in return.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A giving program vetted by the organizer, verified wishes, and clear delivery rules.

How it works

1. Check with the receiving organization for its list of accepted gifts.
2. Assign one wish to each giver without sharing the recipient’s personal information.
3. Deliver the gift through an agreed-upon channel.

Example

A team chooses wishes from a local community organization and gives labeled packages to its coordinator.

If Something Comes Up

MySanta doesn’t select or verify recipients. Don’t share children’s addresses or personal details in a group chat.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives a gift; guesses don’t change the assignments.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Standard assignments and one appropriate clue about each giver.

How it works

1. Prepare gifts for your assigned recipients.
2. Before opening the gift, the recipient reads a clue and makes one guess.
3. The giver reveals their identity if the group agreed to it.

Example

A note says, “We saved that project together in June,” and Anna guesses Michael.

If Something Comes Up

A wrong guess doesn’t affect the gift. Don’t use intimate or sensitive details in clues.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Each gift goes to its assigned recipient.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Personal assignments and short, kind descriptions of recipients.

How it works

1. One at a time, each giver describes their recipient without naming them.
2. The group guesses.
3. The giver reveals the person’s name and gives them the gift.

Example

“This person always recommends great books to us.” After the guesses, Ava gets the gift.

If Something Comes Up

If no one guesses, reveal the name. Don’t describe someone’s appearance or personal struggles without their consent.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Each number receives one gift.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Unique participant numbers and a private lookup table kept by the organizer.

How it works

1. Enter numbers instead of names in the draw.
2. Privately give each participant their recipient’s number and any relevant wish list details.
3. Label each gift with a number; the organizer helps get it to its recipient.

Example

Participant 4 gives a gift to participant 7; the organizer keeps participant 7’s name.

If Something Comes Up

Don’t share the lookup table with the assignments. Numbers alone don’t guarantee complete anonymity.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Each profile receives one suitable gift.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Anonymous questionnaires with unique IDs and a private list of who each profile belongs to.

How it works

1. The organizer collects wish lists and removes names.
2. The organizer privately gives everyone a different person’s questionnaire.
3. Gifts labeled with questionnaire IDs are delivered to their owners.

Example

A Secret Santa sees “I love hiking and need an insulated bottle sleeve,” but not the person’s name.

If Something Comes Up

A person may be recognizable from their hobbies. Don’t promise complete anonymity, and manually make sure no one receives their own questionnaire.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one gift with a personal touch.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A personal name draw, a gift, and time to write a poem or make themed wrapping.

How it works

1. Find out what your recipient enjoys.
2. Prepare a gift, a kind poem, and themed wrapping.
3. At the gathering, read the poem if you like, then give the gift.

Example

A gift for a soccer fan is hidden inside a handmade paper soccer ball.

If Something Comes Up

Don’t expect anyone to be a poet. A short note works if everyone agrees ahead of time.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone finds the gift assigned to them ahead of time.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

An assigned recipient, a safe hiding place, and 2–3 clear clues.

How it works

1. Check the route and make sure the hiding place is accessible.
2. Give the recipient the first clue.
3. Offer help if the search takes too long, and make sure it ends with the gift being found.

Example

One note leads to the bookshelf; the next leads to a labeled box.

If Something Comes Up

Don’t hide gifts in locked or unsafe places. Have a clear clue and another way to deliver the gift.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives a gift; the giver may remain anonymous.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Assignments and an approved place to leave labeled gifts.

How it works

1. Choose a gift for your recipient.
2. Leave it in the agreed-upon place with the recipient’s name or number.
3. The organizer checks that the gift has been picked up.

Example

A Secret Santa leaves a package at a shared check-in desk, and a coordinator gives it to Michael.

If Something Comes Up

Don’t enter personal lockers or show up at someone’s home uninvited. Use an agreed-upon way to deliver the gift.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Agree on new or pre-read books, language, and format.

How it works

1. Choose one book based on the recipient’s interests and add a note about why you picked it.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

Anna loves travel, so her Secret Santa chooses a book about an expedition and writes a note in the card.

If Something Comes Up

If the recipient already owns the book, offer to swap it by mutual agreement.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Choose how to deliver it, and don’t share personal letters without permission.

How it works

1. Write a personal letter, draw a card, or share a few words of appreciation—no purchase required.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

Michael writes Mia about three happy moments from the past year.

If Something Comes Up

If a letter gets lost, the writer can share a copy. The recipient doesn’t have to read it aloud.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Agree on a manageable project and enough time to make it.

How it works

1. Make a gift yourself: a drawing, craft, recording, or baked treat.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

Ava knits a small bookmark in the recipient’s favorite colors.

If Something Comes Up

If your project won’t be ready in time, tell the organizer and agree on a new date before the gathering.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Check dietary restrictions. Label ingredients and expiration dates on the package.

How it works

1. Give food or a drink with clear ingredient and storage information.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

For a recipient who avoids nuts, choose tea and cookies with suitable ingredients.

If Something Comes Up

If the ingredients are unclear, don’t taste the gift. Ask the giver to confirm them or offer a replacement.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Ask about milk, nuts, and other ingredients to avoid. Don’t guess what’s in the treats.

How it works

1. Choose chocolate or sweets that fit the recipient’s preferences and dietary needs.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

Give a dark chocolate fan two small nut-free bars.

If Something Comes Up

If you can’t find a suitable option, agree on another treat or a non-food gift.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Discuss size, fragility, and safe packaging.

How it works

1. Give one ornament or a small set the group has agreed on.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

Choose a shatter-resistant ornament for a family with a young child.

If Something Comes Up

If an ornament breaks in transit, the giver and recipient can arrange a replacement without drawing names again.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

First agree on the gift type and what counts as one set.

How it works

1. Choose a shared gift idea: mugs, socks, or small cozy sets.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

Fill a mug in the recipient’s favorite color with tea bags and a note.

If Something Comes Up

If you don’t know the size, ask or choose a gift that doesn’t require one.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Agree on condition, such as items being clean, intact, and in working order.

How it works

1. Bring a suitable item you already own that meets the group’s agreed condition.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

An unused art set goes to someone who enjoys sketching.

If Something Comes Up

Don’t pass off a broken item as a joke. Replace it before the exchange or be upfront about its condition.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Avoid personal secrets, appearance, or sensitive topics.

How it works

1. Choose a kind joke or an unusual item that won’t embarrass the recipient.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

A cat lover gets a silly cat mug they mentioned in their wish list.

If Something Comes Up

If the joke misses the mark, don’t demand a reaction. Offer to replace the gift.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Agree on participation, timing, and whether the recipient can decline or reschedule.

How it works

1. Offer an optional activity together, a service, or help on a convenient date.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

A Secret Santa gives a coupon for a walk together, and they choose the date as a pair.

If Something Comes Up

A coupon doesn’t obligate the recipient. If the activity doesn’t work for them, choose something else together.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Before buying, check compatibility, region restrictions, and transfer rules.

How it works

1. Give digital art, a gift card, or another digital gift the recipient can access.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

A Secret Santa creates a digital illustration and sends it in an agreed-upon file format.

If Something Comes Up

If a code doesn’t work, the giver should contact the seller. Never ask the recipient for their account password.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Participants choose and vet the organization themselves. MySanta doesn’t collect donations or verify transfers.

How it works

1. Instead of an item, support a cause chosen with the recipient.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

The recipient chooses a local animal shelter, and their Secret Santa donates the agreed amount directly.

If Something Comes Up

If the recipient doesn’t approve of the cause, agree on another one before donating.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Write down the exact rule: does the color apply to the gift or wrapping, and which word must start with the chosen letter?

How it works

1. Choose one shared constraint, such as a red gift or an item that starts with the letter C.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

For the letter C, choose a comic book, cup, or colored pencils based on the recipient’s wish list.

If Something Comes Up

If an item’s name is debatable, the host should decide before anyone shops. Don’t change the rule after gifts are exchanged.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Agree on acceptable gift types and what makes them local.

How it works

1. Choose something connected to your city and share its story.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

A Secret Santa gives postcards by a local artist featuring a favorite route around town.

If Something Comes Up

If a souvenir can’t be shipped, choose something else. Follow the carrier’s restrictions.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A shared interest doesn’t mean everyone likes the same things. Ask for personal hints.

How it works

1. Give an item or experience related to a shared interest.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

A board game fan gets a dice bag in the right size.

If Something Comes Up

If there’s a chance the recipient already owns it, check through the organizer.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Agree on whether materials or shipping can cost money. Any help should be optional.

How it works

1. Give something creative, your time, or a suitable item from home instead of buying something new.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

A Secret Santa records an audio greeting and offers to help organize photos.

If Something Comes Up

If an idea would require an unexpected expense, change it instead of quietly raising the budget.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Let people guide the theme; not everyone has only happy childhood memories.

How it works

1. Choose a gift connected to a happy memory or a decade everyone agreed on.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

At the recipient’s request, their Secret Santa finds a reprint of a favorite childhood book.

If Something Comes Up

If the original is too expensive, agree on an alternative and be clear if it’s a reprint.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one themed gift. Reveal the giver only if the group agrees.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Set a clear spending limit and decide whether it includes wrapping and shipping.

How it works

1. Find a useful or fun gift within the group’s small budget.
2. Agree on a budget, date, and wish lists. Everyone gives one gift and receives one.
3. Draw names once, prepare a gift that fits the theme for your recipient, and exchange gifts on the agreed date.

Example

With a small agreed-upon budget, a Secret Santa chooses a small notebook and adds a personal note.

If Something Comes Up

If a suitable item costs more, find another option or agree on a new limit with the whole group before buying.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one gift from another department.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Names, departments, and a list of within-department exclusions.

How it works

1. Add all participants to the name draw.
2. Add exclusions for coworkers in the same department.
3. Check that the draw is possible, then share assignments privately.

Example

Marketing draws someone in Support and vice versa; assignments within the same department aren’t allowed.

If Something Comes Up

If one department is too large, a valid draw may not be possible. Change the restriction only if the whole group agrees.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone gives and receives one gift, following the agreed exclusions.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A family participant list and agreed-upon exclusions.

How it works

1. Enter each person separately.
2. Add exclusions for spouses or previous recipients.
3. Draw names and share each assignment privately.

Example

Anna doesn’t draw her spouse Michael, but she can draw her sister Ava.

If Something Comes Up

Too many exclusions can make a valid draw impossible. Decide together which ones to relax.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Every child receives a gift, with adults supervising purchases.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Adult consent, a manageable budget, and a children’s list without public addresses.

How it works

1. An adult helps each child make a wish list.
2. The organizer draws names and shares assignments with the adults.
3. Help prepare and give a gift to each child.

Example

A parent helps a child choose a book for a classmate and sign the card.

If Something Comes Up

Don’t let a child go without a gift because another family is delayed. The coordinator should arrange a backup in advance.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one personal gift.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A private list of friends, a budget, and a date.

How it works

1. Ask even longtime friends what they’d like.
2. Draw names.
3. Get together and give gifts to your assigned recipients.

Example

Friends agree to skip souvenirs and share book wish lists.

If Something Comes Up

Don’t turn an inside joke into an uncomfortable surprise. The recipient’s boundaries matter more than how well you know them.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives a package, but shipping and delivery dates differ.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A shipping deadline, a private way to share addresses, and a shipping budget.

How it works

1. Draw names and collect only the addresses you need through a private channel.
2. Mail the gift with enough time to spare.
3. Share the tracking number privately and confirm delivery.

Example

A Secret Santa mails a book one week before the group’s reveal date.

If Something Comes Up

If a package is delayed, let the recipient know through the organizer. Don’t put addresses in a group invitation.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone opens their gift; anyone who can’t join can open theirs later.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Gifts delivered ahead of time and a scheduled video call.

How it works

1. Draw names as usual.
2. Send gifts before the gathering and ask everyone to wait to open them.
3. Take turns opening gifts on the call.

Example

Five friends in different cities open their packages together on Saturday.

If Something Comes Up

If a package is late, its recipient can join the call and open it later. There’s no need to draw names again.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

A coordinator confirms delivery. Any guarantees come from the program, not the name draw.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A coordinator for the open program and clear rules for opting out and sharing information.

How it works

1. Collect opt-in registrations and confirm that participants are ready.
2. Assign recipients and share only the minimum necessary information privately.
3. Track deliveries and arrange a backup in case someone doesn’t follow through.

Example

The community accepts registrations until a deadline and shares each address only with the assigned giver.

If Something Comes Up

This catalog doesn’t vet participants or guarantee a gift. An open exchange needs its own organizer and a plan for missed commitments.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives an international gift or an agreed alternative.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Willingness to ship internationally, countries, timing, and carrier restrictions.

How it works

1. Agree on shipping destinations and costs before drawing names.
2. Add any necessary exclusions manually.
3. Check which items can be shipped and mail gifts early.

Example

A Secret Santa chooses a lightweight book instead of a liquid the carrier won’t accept.

If Something Comes Up

The tool doesn’t check customs rules. Participants should confirm them with their carrier before buying.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives a gift, whether they join in person or remotely.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A shared date, a way for remote participants to join, and gifts delivered to them in advance.

How it works

1. Draw names once for everyone.
2. Send gifts to remote participants ahead of time.
3. Choose a host to manage turns both in the room and on the call.

Example

Anna opens her package on screen, then Michael takes a turn at the office.

If Something Comes Up

Don’t try to pass gifts around a physical circle that includes remote players. A one-to-one exchange works better for this group.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Each participating pet receives one gift through their owner.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Pet profiles from owners, including species, size, food ingredients, and restrictions.

How it works

1. List the owner and pet together on one line in the name draw.
2. Choose a safe gift based on the profile.
3. Give it to the owner, who decides when and how to use it.

Example

For a dog that can’t have treats, choose an approved toy in the right size.

If Something Comes Up

Don’t give medication or unfamiliar pet food. Owners can decline anything unsuitable.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone gives and receives one gift, whatever the season.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A reason, date, and theme that don’t have to be tied to Christmas.

How it works

1. Name the exchange for the holiday or season you choose.
2. Draw names as usual.
3. Prepare gifts and exchange them on the agreed date.

Example

Friends exchange books at the start of summer using the same name draw.

If Something Comes Up

Not everyone celebrates the same holidays. Make the occasion and participation optional.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

Everyone gets one gift, and all numbers are used.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

One wrapped gift and one number per person.

How it works

1. Put the gifts in one pile and shuffle the numbers.
2. Each person draws one number without replacement.
3. Take the gift with that number and open it together.

Example

Label five gifts 1–5, then have participants draw five different slips.

If Something Comes Up

In this version, you may draw the gift you brought. If that’s a concern, agree on another method before you start.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

All gifts are opened and everyone ends with one; the first player doesn’t get an extra turn.

Participants

Tool limit: 3–100 people

What to Prepare

3–100 participants, one numbered gift each, and a steal limit of 1–3.

How it works

1. Shuffle the order in the tool.
2. On your turn, open a wrapped gift or steal an opened one. The person whose gift was stolen takes the next turn.
3. A gift can be stolen once per chain and no more than the selected limit during the game.

Example

Anna opens a mug. Michael steals it, so Anna chooses another gift. The mug can’t be stolen again in that chain.

If Something Comes Up

White Elephant, Yankee Swap, and Dirty Santa are related games with regional rule variations. This tool uses the MySanta version shown here, and you may draw the gift you brought.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

After the last turn, everyone opens their gift at the same time.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

One wrapped, numbered gift per person and a paper record of who has each one.

How it works

1. Give everyone a turn number.
2. On a turn, choose a wrapped gift from the center or take someone else’s without opening it.
3. After a gift is taken, the person left without one chooses from the center. This version has no steal chains.

Example

Michael takes package 2 from Anna, and Anna picks package 5 from the center.

If Something Comes Up

People may guess what a gift is from its wrapping, so agree not to open gifts early. The standard gift-stealing game opens gifts and uses different rules.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

After the agreed number of rounds, open any remaining gifts. Everyone ends with one.

Participants

Tool limit: 3–30 people

What to Prepare

3–30 people seated in a circle, one numbered gift each, and 1–5 rounds of turns.

How it works

1. Enter participants by seat and check who’s on their left and right.
2. Take turns rolling the die. The screen explains when to pass, swap, or open.
3. The host confirms each move after the group makes it.

Example

On a roll of three, Anna chooses Michael. They swap gifts, and the host confirms the move.

If Something Comes Up

You may end up with the gift you brought. This MySanta format gives everyone one gift; Pakkeleg can leave people with different numbers of gifts.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

A person may end up with several gifts or none.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Small gifts within a shared budget, a die, and a separate timer.

How it works

1. Take turns rolling the die. A six lets you take a gift from the center.
2. When the center is empty, start the agreed timer and keep playing. A six lets you take a gift from someone else.
3. When the timer goes off, stop and open the gifts you have.

Example

When time is up, Anna has two gifts and Michael has none. That’s a possible outcome in this version.

If Something Comes Up

If everyone should get one gift, choose the dice exchange instead. Pakkeleg doesn’t guarantee an even outcome.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

After 15 cues, open the gifts. In MySanta’s stories, everyone ends with a different gift from the one they started with.

Participants

Tool limit: 3–30 people

What to Prepare

3–30 people seated in a circle, one gift each, and a host with a story.

How it works

1. List seats clockwise and choose a story.
2. The host reads a passage, and everyone passes only when they hear a highlighted cue.
3. Confirm the pass, then continue to the next passage.

Example

At the highlighted “PASS LEFT” cue, everyone passes their gift to the person on their left. The host taps “Passed.”

If Something Comes Up

If someone misses a pass, pause and fix it before continuing. Other mentions of left or right in the story aren’t cues.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

Everyone gets one gift; you may end up with the one you brought.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

One gift per person in a circle, music, and five planned stops.

How it works

1. While the music plays, everyone passes gifts in the same direction.
2. When the music stops, everyone keeps the gift they’re holding, then the direction changes.
3. After the fifth stop, everyone opens the gift they’re holding.

Example

After the second stop, the host announces “Pass right” and starts the music again.

If Something Comes Up

Don’t grab a gift when the music stops. Finish any pass already in progress, but don’t start a new one.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

When all six cards have been used, everyone opens their gift.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

One gift per person and a deck of cards with directions such as pass left, pass right, or swap with a neighbor.

How it works

1. Make two cards for each action and shuffle the deck.
2. Take turns drawing a card and following its direction as a group or pair.
3. Remove each used card from the game.

Example

A “Pass right” card moves every gift one seat to the right at the same time.

If Something Comes Up

No card should leave anyone without a gift. Kind challenge cards are a separate tool and don’t replace this deck.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

After the last turn, everyone has one opened gift.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A paper turn order, wrapped gifts in the center, and one protection token per person.

How it works

1. On your turn, take a gift from the center or steal an opened gift.
2. A gift’s owner can use their token once to refuse a steal. The player then takes a gift from the center.
3. If a gift is stolen, its previous owner takes one from the center. No steal chain follows.

Example

Anna uses her token to protect her mug, so Michael picks a new wrapped gift.

If Something Comes Up

Explain what each token does before starting. The standard gift-stealing tool doesn’t track roles or tokens, so run this version manually.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

Everyone ends with one gift after all turns are complete.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A turn order, one gift per person, and an agreed challenge such as rock-paper-scissors.

How it works

1. On your turn, take a new gift or challenge the owner of an opened gift.
2. If the challenger wins, they take the gift. The previous owner chooses one from the center.
3. If the challenger loses, they choose a gift from the center instead.

Example

Michael wins Anna’s mug, and Anna opens a new gift.

If Something Comes Up

If it’s a tie, play once more. A second tie leaves the gift with its owner. Agree on the challenges ahead of time.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

Everyone chooses one gift; the quiz only sets the order.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

One gift per person and the same quiz questions for everyone.

How it works

1. Run a short quiz.
2. Rank players by correct answers and break ties with a draw.
3. In that order, each person chooses one wrapped gift.

Example

Anna gets four questions right and Michael gets three, so Anna chooses first.

If Something Comes Up

If a question is flawed, discard it for everyone. Don’t leave someone without a gift for scoring zero.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

In this balanced version, everyone gets one gift, and no real money is used.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

One wrapped gift per person, equal play-money tokens, and a host.

How it works

1. Put one gift up for auction at a time.
2. The winner pays their bid and sits out the remaining auctions.
3. The last remaining gift goes to the last participant.

Example

Everyone starts with ten tokens. Anna wins a lot for seven and waits for the other auctions to finish.

If Something Comes Up

Break tied bids with a draw. If no one bids, raffle the gift among people who haven’t received one.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives a gift chosen by their secret helper.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Secret assignments on paper and one broadly appealing gift per person in a shared pool.

How it works

1. Each person privately learns who they’re choosing for.
2. Following a pre-shuffled order, choose one wrapped gift from the pool.
3. Give the chosen gift to your assigned person.

Example

Anna picks a wrapped gift for Michael but keeps the recipient a secret until the end.

If Something Comes Up

This simple version has no stealing. If you add it, agree on separate rules and manage them manually.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

Everyone has one gift; ending up with the one you brought is possible.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

One chair per person, one gift at each seat, and five neutral prompts.

How it works

1. The host reads a “Never have I ever…” prompt.
2. Those who have done it and choose to respond move to the next seat among the respondents, leaving the gifts where they are.
3. After the fifth prompt, everyone takes the gift at their seat.

Example

Three people have gone skiing, so they rotate seats among themselves.

If Something Comes Up

If one person or no one responds, no seats change. Anyone may skip a personal question without explaining why.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

Everyone ends with one gift after all turns are complete.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A turn order, wrapped gifts in the center, and a coin.

How it works

1. Heads: open a gift from the center. Tails: steal an opened gift.
2. Anyone whose gift is stolen takes a new one from the center without flipping.
3. If no gifts have been opened yet, either result means opening a new one.

Example

Michael flips tails and takes Anna’s mug, so Anna opens a new gift.

If Something Comes Up

If the coin lands on its edge or outside the agreed area, flip again. Agree on this rule before starting.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

Everyone gets one gift; you may end up with the one you brought.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

One gift per person, seats in a circle, and a separate two-minute timer.

How it works

1. Take turns choosing someone to swap with. You have up to ten seconds to decide.
2. Make the swap and pass the turn.
3. Stop when the timer sounds.

Example

Anna swaps with Ava, then Michael makes a choice. When time runs out, no more swaps are made.

If Something Comes Up

Finish any swap that began before the timer. If the pace feels uncomfortable, play without a timer.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

The plan ends on an agreed date; recipients don’t change each day.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

One name draw, a 7- or 10-day plan, and a total budget that includes the final gift.

How it works

1. Assign each person one recipient for the entire period.
2. Choose dates for small surprises and a final gathering.
3. Share small gestures and give the final gift.

Example

All week, Anna surprises Michael with a note, tea, a helping hand, and a final gift.

If Something Comes Up

A missed day doesn’t mean buying two gifts. Agree on a new date and stay within the total budget.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

The agreed period ends; there’s no required physical gift.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

One assigned recipient, a time period, and clear boundaries for acceptable help.

How it works

1. Draw names once.
2. Choose optional acts of kindness from the challenges.
3. At the end of the period, thank one another. Revealing identities is optional.

Example

A Secret Angel helps prepare for a gathering and leaves a kind note.

If Something Comes Up

Help should respect personal boundaries. A refusal should be accepted without expecting thanks.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Each year, every active participant receives a gift.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Saved assignments and yearly confirmation that everyone is taking part.

How it works

1. Assign recipients once and let the organizer keep the list.
2. Check who’s participating before the next exchange.
3. If the group is unchanged, keep the same assignments.

Example

For several years, Anna has surprised Michael and seen how his interests change.

If Something Comes Up

If someone leaves, the organizer must manually update the assignments and tell anyone affected. This tool doesn’t keep a year-by-year history.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone gives and receives one gift in each round.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A record of past assignments and an agreed number of rounds without repeats.

How it works

1. Collect the current participant list before each exchange.
2. Manually add previous recipients to the exclusions.
3. Check that the draw is possible before sharing the new assignments.

Example

Anna gave to Michael in the fall, so he’s excluded as her recipient in winter.

If Something Comes Up

If no valid draw remains, agree as a group to relax the no-repeat rule. Past assignments aren’t saved automatically.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Each birthday in the period has an assigned Secret Santa.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A birthday list, private assignments, and a shared budget.

How it works

1. Assign each person one birthday recipient for the year.
2. Each giver notes their recipient’s birthday and sets a private reminder.
3. Give gifts on birthdays or other agreed-upon dates.

Example

Anna prepares Michael’s gift for April and gets hers from Ava in November.

If Something Comes Up

Agree on what happens if someone leaves the group. This tool doesn’t send reminders or update assignments automatically.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one group gift from the rest of the participants.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A separate discussion for each recipient, without that person, and one person responsible for the gift.

How it works

1. Create a separate private discussion for each recipient, without including that person.
2. In each discussion, everyone else chooses one gift and decides whether to contribute.
3. Give each person one gift from the group.

Example

Michael and Mia discuss a gift for Anna; Anna and Mia discuss one for Michael.

If Something Comes Up

Make sure the recipient isn’t accidentally added to their own discussion. The group manages chats and contributions themselves.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives one gift from each other participant.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Prepare one identical item or portion for each other participant. Label its contents or purpose.

How it works

1. Agree on the size and total cost of each set.
2. Lay out the sets on a table.
3. Each person takes one item from every other participant.

Example

Five people each bake four bags of cookies and go home with four new flavors.

If Something Comes Up

Don’t bring just one item. If someone drops out, recalculate the quantities before preparing the sets.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives as many favorite things from others as they brought.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Everyone brings the same number of copies of a favorite item, such as two. The number of copies must be smaller than the group size.

How it works

1. Each person briefly shares why they like their item.
2. Shuffle the list. Pass one copy to each next person in the circle, skipping your own name.
3. The organizer tracks distribution so no one gets two copies from the same person.

Example

Six people each bring two favorite pens, and everyone leaves with two different recommendations.

If Something Comes Up

Agree on the total cost in advance: the budget for one item differs from the cost of bringing several.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

Everyone receives a full calendar and opens one gift each day.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

The calendar has one day per participant. Each person prepares one gift for their assigned day, with one copy for everyone, including themselves.

How it works

1. Assign a day to each participant.
2. Everyone brings a batch of identical gifts, one for each participant, and labels each package with their assigned day.
3. The organizer assembles a calendar for each person with one gift for every day.

Example

Seven friends each prepare seven surprises, so every calendar has seven different days.

If Something Comes Up

In this format, everyone also receives their own gift. Agree separately on any other setup; the Secret Friend planner doesn’t manage these batches.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

The person who opens the last layer gets the main prize; others may not get one.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

One prize wrapped in several layers, music, and a host.

How it works

1. Pass the parcel around the circle.
2. When the music stops, the person holding it removes one layer.
3. Keep playing until the last layer is removed.

Example

Remove one layer at each of the first five stops; the prize is inside the sixth.

If Something Comes Up

The number of layers doesn’t guarantee a prize for everyone. For an even exchange, choose a different format with one gift per person.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

The game ends when the last layer is removed; players may collect different numbers of prizes.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A ball wrapped in layers with small prizes inside, and a timer for equal turns.

How it works

1. Take turns unwrapping the ball for the same amount of time.
2. Keep any prizes you unwrap during your turn.
3. Pass the ball when the timer sounds.

Example

Michael finds a sticker in 20 seconds; Anna unwraps two small prizes on her turn.

If Something Comes Up

Don’t wrap sharp objects or use packaging that’s hard to remove safely. Players may not end up with equal prizes.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

All prepared prizes are assigned; participants don’t bring gifts.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Prizes provided by the organizer and matching participant numbers.

How it works

1. Announce the number of prizes and participation rules ahead of time.
2. Shuffle the numbers and draw without replacement.
3. Give prizes to the numbers drawn.

Example

A company prepares three prizes for ten guests and draws three numbers.

If Something Comes Up

If there are fewer prizes than people, say so before the drawing. Don’t present it as a gift exchange where everyone gets a gift.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

The exchange ends on a set date; no one is guaranteed a gift.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

Wish lists shared voluntarily and a clear way to contact one another.

How it works

1. Participants share their wish lists.
2. Everyone chooses who to give a gift to and what to give.
3. Arrange gift delivery directly, and optionally mark wishes as fulfilled.

Example

Anna gives Michael a book from his list, but no one is required to give Anna a gift in return.

If Something Comes Up

A wish list isn’t a demand. If everyone should receive one gift, use a name draw.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

At the gathering

What Everyone Gets

The game ends after everyone chooses; prize value and quantity may vary.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

For a friendly version, use gifts and play tokens only, and explain the possible outcomes in advance.

How it works

1. The organizer prepares sealed envelopes with outcomes explained ahead of time.
2. A participant chooses a known small gift or one of the remaining envelopes.
3. Open and remove the chosen envelope; the choice is final.

Example

Michael keeps a mug he knows, while Anna chooses an envelope with two small souvenirs.

If Something Comes Up

Cash bets, payments, and wallets aren’t supported. If the group doesn’t want a chance of going home without a prize, choose a format that guarantees a gift for everyone.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.

Where to Play

In person or remotely

What Everyone Gets

The recipient gets four agreed-upon gifts; this format doesn’t assign people to one another.

Participants

See the rules below for setup and group size

What to Prepare

A personal list covering all four categories and a total budget.

How it works

1. List something they want, something useful, an item of clothing, and a book.
2. Choose one gift from each category.
3. Check the total budget and give the set to one recipient.

Example

A parent chooses a game, backpack, scarf, and book for their child.

If Something Comes Up

This is a way to choose a gift set, not a separate name draw. Don’t buy four items for every participant unless the group agrees.

The organizer runs this format using the instructions. The tools below can prepare materials, but they don’t validate the draw or assignments.